What is Relationship?
What is it – but simply a means of obtaining a SENSE OF SELF!
When you are in a relationship that does not connect you to YOU, you eventually – switch your SELF ‘off’. You ‘sign out’ and do not know why.
The reason why, of course, is that this relationship is simply not serving you. It is not providing you the mirror you need to grow, expand – into the best version of your SELF.
At the extreme, the moments of relating with that person disconnect you from you who are – until you lose that sense of self altogether. This happens if that person tries to change you, ‘expects’ you to behave a certain way, perhaps even sees you more as the ‘role’ you serve in that person’s life, for example ‘wife’, ‘partner’ – rather than for who YOU ARE.
When Relationship works
On the other hand, when you are in a relationship that provides for you a sense of who you are –
you obtain a sense of fulfilment. You begin to not only fall in love with the other person, but actually, and most importantly, with your SELF!
And with life.. This is all just a reflection of YOU!
So, if you are in a relationship where the reflection the other brings connects you to you – cultivate it consciously. Be honest, authentic; vocalise your concerns so that you process unspokens rather than allowing them to fester into the monster elephants that haunt so many houses the country over. Say what you need to say. Don’t hold back. BE YOU That is what you are after, on a deep level, by being in a relationship. Just to get a sense of YOU.
Allow self reflection and self awareness.
So go now and enjoy your SELF through the reflection we call ‘Relationship’; learn from it, grow from it, let it challenge you. After all, that’s why you’ve drawn it to you in the first place!